Advice : It Ain’t Always Good

Advice : guidance or recommendations concerning prudent future action, typically given by someone regarded as knowledgeable or authoritative.


All advice, is not good advice. Let’s just start with that concept. Typically when a person finds themselves in a situation where they are going to another person (a friend, family member, significant other, etc…) they are genuinely seeking help and/or input from an outside source – whom of which that they trust and can confide in. Now this can go many different ways depending upon the person and depending upon the situation. 

Scenario One – Selfish (Self-Serving) Advice
This is coming from someone who cares about you, but also probably cares about themselves quite a bit more. You have to be careful when taking advice from people with selfish intentions. While their advice may help you out in the beginning, in the long run you can find yourself in situations where they may either hold it against you, use you, or try to make it seem as though they did you a favor and you owe them something. Beware. 

Scenario Two – Uneducated Advice
Pretty self-explanatory but I’ll break it down for you anyways…basically this person has no idea what the hell they are talking about. You ever have that one friend who has gone through break up after break up or had bad things continually happen to them and they still try to give you relationship advice? Yeah, prime example of this one. Be careful who you take your advice from when it comes to serious situations. While your friends and peers may truly want to help you and think they are helping you, not everyone is the same. What works for them, may not work for you – or to keep it even more real, what they go through, you may not want to go through. 

Scenario Three – Unsolicited Advice
Nobody asked you. Seriously, nobody asked you. I feel like we all have that one friend that thinks they know the key to everything and how everyone else should go about their lives. When in actuality if you were to look at their lives and their day-to-day situations, something just ain’t right. Yup, why even do that to yourself? Good doesn’t always come from good intentions, so you can listen…but you don’t always have to act. 

That made sense right? There are plenty of other types of advice people can give you, solicited, low-level, high-level, the list goes on. But I feel like the aforementioned three pretty much sum it up. For me, I’m the type of person that if I am coming to you with a problem or a situation or a conflict, I genuinely want your advice on what YOU think is best for ME. Not what’s best for you, not what will make matters worse, not what you just think I want to hear, and surely not information on something that literally has nothing to do with what I’m going through. 

I’ve had to teach myself over the years that not everyone knows you like they think they do, not everyone knows what is really best for you in a given situation. So yes, it’s great to have people to talk to and people you can count on from a day-to-day basis. But also, take matters into your own hands and bring your problems to God more than you bring them to anyone else. He knows you best. You know yourself best. If someone is giving you advice and you feel it doesn’t quite fit your character, you don’t have to take it! No questions asked. 

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All Smiles 

Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change. – Shannon Alder 

Since I was younger I have always hated my smile. I’ve always struggled with having dental issues and now being a grown walking brace face, I’d have to say not much has changed! Ha! No, just kidding. I have learned to love my smile. Though I rarely smile with my teeth showing, and rarely take pictures of me actually smiling. This one here is a new favorite. I look genuinely happy. And for that, here’s to a successful day two of One Hundred Days of Happiness.

Cheers!

Pas Oublié

Just incase you thought I forgot to post this week…I did. But I have my reasons. Needless to say this week has been extremely long and tiring. Now that it’s Friday I’m ready to go home, relax, and enjoy the weekend.

Forgive me in advance if this post totally sucks or is depressing due to its lack of enthusiasm, but that’s just me today (even though Friday’s are awesome). I haven’t been feeling well all week and last night I got super sick so today has been a little trying. Though I am feeling MUCH better and I’m ready to keep things moving, I just don’t have anything fun or exciting to share with you guys!

However….I will let you all know that I love you dearly and I’m so thankful for all the great messages you guys send me! Makes me stay motivated to keep doing better and stop slackin’ on my pimpin.

Happy Friday!

It’s Been Too Long

Well….if I were to say that I’ve been a little busy these past couple of months, that would definitely have to be an understatement. My life completely changed and was flipped upside down (for both the better and worse) all within a months time period. I have been through more than I ever imagined I would have experienced by the age of 24, in this year alone. As I said, some changes were for the good, others…not so much. 

But I’m not here to sit and dwell on what a wreck (for lack of a better word) my life has been. I have learned so much about myself, the people in my life and my passion over the past couple months. So here I am. Getting back to what I love. 

Forgive me for the long overdue return, but I’m back! 🙂

Great News!

Hey lovebugs,

So I haven’t blogged in a little while….but all for good reasons. Last week was a crazy busy week for me. Good crazy, not bad crazy.

God is so good. I don’t know what your religion is or if you even have one, but I do. I love the Lord and he has been so good in my life and the lives of people I love, especially lately. I have been struggling and down when it came to work, money, living, and just life. But God managed to fix most of my problems in a matter of three days.

I was at church Friday night and I just felt so blessed for everything in my life. Woke up Saturday morning and was blessed to find a decent apartment for a great price! And to top it I later stumbled upon an even better place and closed the deal! So now I am officially getting closer to becoming a grown up.

But that’s not it. The car that we were trying to fix ended up only costing HALF the price!

So Sunday morning at church I was feeling incredibly blessed. My preacher said something really special that day. “Whatever you lose, God will give right back to you!”

Now here is where I truly felt God working miracles in my life. Monday evening after work I had to pay the deposit on the apartment. Which meant I would be living off of very little until next paycheck because I wasn’t planning for this, but yet I was SO thankful. So I go to the building and pay my deposit. Awesome, I’m excited for what’s to come. Then I head home and my mom tells me I have mail. I open it and it’s a check for the EXACT amount of my deposit that I had to pay!!

God truly gave me back what I had lost. I am so thankful and blessed!

Keep the praises going up – and watch the blessings come down! 🙂

Cast Your Vote

Cast Your Vote

Just a little fashion fun in honor of today…

As I’m sure many of you are aware that today, November 6, 2012 is the day for you to have a say in the future of the country. I have never been the type of person to judge or view someone differently or in a negative light for the way they feel about something. That being said, I don’t care who it is that you are voting for….just vote!

Polls are open today until 8pm so please, on your lunch break, on your way home from work, whatever it is…take the time to make a difference.

I did…