Social Influence : Part I

It’s taken me a long time to get around to writing this post for many reasons, and even though I’m sitting here finally doing it, it’s still going to be a bit difficult. One of the reasons that this subject matter is a bit sensitive to me is because of my love hate relationship with social media. And two being, I don’t want to offend anyone (ironically). For those of you that know me on a more personal level know that I have been working in social media and marketing for over five years. While I truly enjoy my career and have a deep passion for it, the content and environment of social media as a whole tends to pose a frequent issue with me. And here is why.

Now I’ve mentioned previously how I have grown up in the entertainment industry all of my life and have been surrounded by the media since I can remember. I am extremely aware of just how powerful the media and entertainment industry can be; while still doing what I want and being who I want, it can still be a bit scary at times. That being said, I have always tried to pride myself on being the person that I am both on and offline. Which brings me to the first issue that I have with social media. I’m sure a lot of people will be offended by what I have to say, but I’m not too sure I want to apologize just yet.

True to my soul, I feel as though we currently live in a selfish, self-absorbed and fake world when it comes to social media. There are so many people out in the world who will post one thing saying that this is a representation of who they are, and then turn around and demonstrate a completely different character. And don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with having a little fun with memes, quotes, and (to be quite frank) ignorant ass posts, because even I’m guilty of it – it’s entertaining. But my issue is with people who create this persona and image of who they think that they are, and who they try to be, and how they see themselves, but then in reality it’s not all that it’s hyped up to be. Because truth be told there are also so many people in this world who believe everything that they see and read on the internet, but let’s not get started on that issue.

My point being…I know for a fact that I am not perfect, I know that I have issues that I need to work on, I know that there are probably a handful of things I could change about myself to make me a better person. But at the end of the day, who I am on social media…is who I am in my heart. Yes, I edit my pictures to feel more confident about the way I look (not everybody is Beyoncé – but apparently she edits hers too lol). Yes, I post ignorant things on Instagram and Snapchat (pause – part of that is due to the fact that I just am ignorant at times and I take full responsibility for my ratchetness lol). But at the end of the day, the thing that I pride myself on is that when people meet me in person, they aren’t surprised. I don’t have to try to be someone or something that I’m not. Because of the way that I present myself online, that’s already been established. I find it funny, and actually quite flattering, when I’m out and people know me by my Instagram (which is truly hilarious to me because…um I’m not popping like that lol).

I cannot tell you how many people I know both on and off social media that it’s almost like knowing two different people. They create this persona and character online, and truth be told I don’t know what the reasoning for it is. It could be my own ignorance or stupidity, but I just don’t see the point. What is the end game? What are you getting from this identity? If it’s fame, power, popularity or anything of that nature, I just don’t see why someone would want to build a brand or establish themselves based upon something that is false and not true to self. I see people online and almost laugh because in my head when we’re engaging on a personal level, you’re a totally different person. I find it hysterical that there are people out there who think you are one way when deep down (or not even that deep actually, just behind a social media handle) you’re really not.

So my point is…take note and just be aware of how you want to present yourself to the world. Because as ugly as it can be, it’s so much more beautiful when you don’t have anything to hide or be afraid of. If you’re not comfortable in your own skin and use social media as a place to hide behind, than I suppose I get it (maaaaaaybe). But don’t be so afraid of who you truly are that you feel as though you need to be someone else to everyone else just to make a point or be noticed.

This was a little longer than I thought (go figure), so I’ll just make my social rant a little mini series and speak on the rest at a later time. Stay tuned…


Vague “Beauty”

Bouncing off of my previous post, I wanted to expand a bit more on the matter of self-confidence as it pertains to the way one looks. In our society, beauty can be defined in many different ways. Years ago it used to be so streamlined and defined by the masses. You had to be white, or a fair complexion. You had to be skinny, or thin. You had to have long hair. You had to be feminine. You had to be whatever everyone else in the media classified as beautiful. When someone said that a woman was beautiful, a certain image popped into your head of what you considered to be beautiful. An image portraying what beautiful women typically looked like.

But now you are starting to see so many different varieties of women that are all beautiful within themselves. You have thick women of all shapes and sizes. You have androgynous women mixing up their hairstyles and fashion. You have women looking like every walking complexion out of a Crayola box…and the list goes on. So now when the word beauty comes to mind, you can’t just classify it to one look, one woman. It’s so many different things. And for that, I have to say I’ve never been more excited. While there are still celebrities and females being idolized based upon their looks, if you were to look at the cover of a magazine today and compare it to one from at least forty years ago. You could surely point out at least 20 differences. I guarantee it.

So my wish today is that whatever we are doing, whatever we are changing…I hope we can keep it up as a society. There’s no need to be trapped inside of this image of beauty. Be who you are. Wear what you want. Look how you please. But just always remember that beauty no longer has one definition….you now have the ability to define it yourself.